Here's a hot tip just for you: Breaking up with someone is not easy. Us gays, with our propensity for the dramatic, might wish that when a relationship ends we'd become Destiny's Child and emerge from the tear-stained sea, decked in camo, reborn strong and independent "Survivor" -style, but realistically you're going to be a complete fucking mess. Human beings are predictable creatures. Some of us can shut out our emotions. Regardless, you're bound to fall into some of the well-worn trappings that are part and parcel of breakups. All that said, here's how to avoid becoming another dumped-or-dumpee stereotype and alleviate that sniffly, unnecessary suffering when it becomes clear that the man of your dreams was just another person who didn't know how to wash the dishes properly ugh , never took out the trash who's the real trash here?